How to Create the Reality You Want

The Sufi poet Rumi said,

You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?

I think he was referring to the fact that, having the power to create and manifest the reality we want, most of us choose to ignore this power and struggle through life, creating so much unnecessary suffering for ourselves.

But I have learned that knowing isn’t enough. We have to apply what we know and do so consistently. And this is where most of us fail.

We humans don’t exist in a vacuum. We’re always surrounded by influences ranging from friends and family, the wider public, the news and entertainment media and so much else.

Thoughts create reality, and if we don’t actively guide our thoughts, then we take on the programmed thoughts of the masses and end up creating a reality we don’t even want to experience.

The teacher Abraham points out that everything is always changing and reality is always being created anew (remember, nothing rests and everything is constantly in a state of vibration).

But most of us are living life on autopilot and don’t do much to deliberately change our thinking.

We keep thinking the same thoughts and feeling the same feelings on a daily basis.

And so, we’re creating the same reality over and over again.

As the saying goes:

Nothing works unless you do.

Therefore, it’s up to us to decide which way we want to go and then make a commitment and do the work.

So, let’s get to work!

Backgound

In my previous posts, we explored the following ideas:

That all of creation is consciousness in different form and states of being/becoming;
That thoughts create reality and our outer world is a reflection of our inner world;
That we’re able to influence and change reality through a corresponding change in our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and expectations; and
That the Law of Attraction brings us more of what we give our attention to (wanted and unwanted), and creates momentum.

In this post, we’ll focus on the last two points and explore a few processes that will help us to use our creative powers to create the reality we want to experience.

The General Process

The general process for deliberately creating reality contains two main elements:

Using the power of our imagination to envisioning the reality we want to create and seeing it as already having come to pass; and
Feeling the good feelings associated with this state.

But there are many subtleties and nuances relating to the above which I’d like to clarify.

Focus on the desired outcome
We have to focus on what we want. Not on the absence of it, or the opposite of it (as in, ‘I want to be rich’ and not ‘I don’t want to be in debt’).

It has to be framed in the positive and in the present tense.

Create a clear vision
The clearer the better. The rule of thumb is to be as clear, detailed and specific as we can be, while still feeling good (eager, enthusiastic and optimistic etc.).

See it as already done
We have to see the end result. Not the journey or the steps toward it. And not the work we have to do to get there.

Imagine and feel
We must imagine what it would feel like and allow ourselves to feel those good feelings.

These positive feelings are the key ingredient that breathes life into our dreams and desires.

Bring it into our lives in every possible way
We must fully own the reality and bring it into our lives in every way possible.

We have to, ‘Take mental possession,’ as Wallace D. Wattles advised.

We must cultivate a healthy obsession with the subject: think about in it in pleasing ways, and talk about it with someone supportive in ways that make us feel good.

Prepare for it and act as if
Aside from the internal/mental work, there are things we can also do on the physical plane to help move things along.

I came across a story (I’m sorry, I forget the source. I think it was a ‘The Secret Success Story’) about a lady who wanted to attract a loving partner into her life. And while she did the other things mentioned above, she also did the following:

She started parking her car on one side of her two-car garage, so that there was a clear parking space for her partner’s car.
She cleared out one side of her closet to make space for his clothes.
She also started sleeping on one side of her bed, so there was space for him.

She physically prepared for his arrival, while doing her inner work on the mental plane.

We could do things like buy our favourite item of clothing in a smaller size, in anticipation of losing weight and toning up, or buy a ‘thank you’ card for our boss and colleagues, in anticipation of finding that new job.

We can be as creative as we like, but please don’t be reckless with your health or your money. Be safe and use your common sense when taking these steps. Consult a professional advisor, if in doubt.

Become that person
Some teachers make it clear that we attract, not so much what we want, but who we are on a regular basis.

So we need to assume the identity of the person who is living what we say we want.

It may not always be practical do this all the time, but we can usually do it for at least part of the day or even once in a while.

So, if we want to buy a new car, we could visit the showroom and look at the models–even before we have the money to purchase it.

We could discuss the features with the salesperson and decide on the options and the interior we want.

We can take steps like this without committing financially or doing anything drastic. And it will still help to bring our desire into physical manifestation.

Take inspired action
When we do any of the above on a regular basis, we will feel an urge to take action at some point.

Also, the perfect opportunity might present itself to us.

When this happens, consider it a cue to jump in and take action!

This sort of action will feel good while we’re engaged in it. It will also yield better results than action taken without first mentally lining up the energy.

The Processes

There are countless processes that have been taught throughout the ages for creating the reality we want.

Books like The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, and Ask and It Is Given, by Abraham and Hicks cover most of them.

The ‘Success Stories’ section of the The Secret website is also chock full of the all the creative ways in which people have used the teachings contained in the book and movie to create their own reality.

You’ll probably want to try out a few and see which ones work the best for you and what you’re most comfortable with.

But regardless of the actual process you employ, the underlying idea is always the same:

We have to focus our imagination on what we want to experience and feel the positive feelings we’d feel when this desire manifests in our reality.

And we have to do this consistently.

I will probably cover the following (and other techniques) in greater detail sometime in the future. But for now, let’s whizz through just a few techniques and processes you can begin to apply right away.

Visualisation

This is a technique that most Law of Attraction teachers recommend, and with good reason.

The vision, coupled with the good emotions are said to turbo-charge the creative process and deliver excellent results.

There are three important points to remember in relation to this process:

1. You must frame the vision as the end result as existing in the present tense.

So see yourself as already having what you want, instead of working towards it.

And, imagine you’re already experiencing the desired reality now. Not ‘some day’ or in the future.

2. The clearer the vision, the better it works.

Be as specific as you can, while feeling good.

If the details make you feel uncertain or unsure, then zoom back out.

‘Go general’ and leave the troubling details for later.

3. The more you can involve your five senses, the more effective the process will be.

So, try to hear the associated sounds and smell the scents etc. and aim to create a sensory-rich experience.

The ‘Wouldn’t It Be Nice’ Game

As discussed above, we have to begin to imagine the reality we want, in order to create and experience it.

And we have to give it enough airtime, so that we can feel the good feelings that we’d experience when this desire materialises into our physical experience.

But usually, that change is too far for our minds to stretch, at least at the start.

Plus, there’s a good chance that our inner ‘BS meter’ would kick in with objections and sabotage the process right away. So it might be difficult to get started and gain any traction.

For example, say the reality I wanted to create was that of being a millionaire.

To achieve this, I’d want to imagine that I was a millionaire and feel the good feelings I’d feel when I was being that person.

But chances are, my mind would say, ‘No way. That’s BS! You’re not a millionaire.’

Worse still, my mind would come up with all the reasons why this wasn’t true and all the reasons why it couldn’t happen.

And so, my dreams of being a millionaire would be dead in the water before they ever had a chance to take flight.

This is where the ‘Wouldn’t It Be Nice’ game comes in handy.

Instead of directly asserting the reality we want as already complete, we start off by saying ‘Wouldn’t it be nice’ at the start of it.

For example, ‘Wouldn’t it be nice if I was a millionaire?’ or ‘Wouldn’t it be nice if I was at my ideal bodyweight?’

Approaching the creative process from this angle has two huge benefits:

It starts the creative mind off in the right direction.

But, more importantly, since we’re playing ‘Wouldn’t it be nice’, it won’t trigger our BS meter. And so, and our minds won’t chime in with the usual objections.

For this reason, it’s a fantastic place to start if you feel you have a lot of resistance from within, to the changes you want to create.

Scripting

Scripting is the practice of writing down what you want, as if it has already happened.

It’s like visualisation but in written form.

It’s particularly helpful if you’re more of a verbal person than a visual person.

Also, the act of writing forces you to focus your attention in ways that might feel more familiar to most of us.

I have found it much easier to script than to visualise and it may be that you’re the same. So definitely give it a try.

Start by imagining yourself as already having what you want or as already living the life you want and then make statements about it that feel true and good to you.

For example, say you’re a guy and you’ve gained weight and want to get back to your ideal bodyweight, you could write down something along the following lines:

I love being at my ideal bodyweight.
I love being able to wear my favourite clothes.
I love how good I look in my clothes.
It feels great to move around in my light and athletic body.
I love receiving compliments from my friends and family about how good I look.

You get the picture… play around and have fun with this and see how it works out for you.

Prayer

This is a time-honoured and proven method for creating a new reality. Whether it is for healing, peace or prosperity, prayer has brought blessings and miracles to millions of people over the ages.

Since prayer is usually linked to religion, it is not something I’m qualified to speak on. But at the same time, it’s too important to leave out of this list of processes.

Most people are already familiar with prayer as a form of contacting or communing with the Divine.

So, the only point I’d like to make here is that our prayers might be more effective, if it they are prayers of thanks for the blessing of having what we want come true (in advance), and feeling the feelings of gratitude, rather than a simple plea for what we want.

This is because giving thanks, assumes and affirms that it is already done, whereas a plea for something assumes and affirms that it is absent.

Since the Law of Attraction is part of the Divine power, it will respond to our feelings and bring more of what we’re feeling about.

We will therefore receive more absence and lack of what we’re praying for, if our prayers are framed as requests or pleas.

I came across this idea about prayer through the work of Gregg Braden, author of the ‘Divine Matrix’ and other wonderful books. He calls this mode of prayer ‘Feeling-based prayer.’

He relates a story of accompanying his Native American friend to the desert to pray rain, during a time of drought.

This friend taught him that if he prayed ‘for rain,’ that it wouldn’t rain. Because praying ‘for’ something, acknowledges that it doesn’t already exist.

His friend said that instead, he

…began to feel the feelings of what it felt like to have rain…

And that he smelt the smells of what it would smell like to have rain fall on the walls of their buildings.

And lastly, he said that he felt what it would feel like to have the rain and the mud on his naked feet, as he stood in the rain.

And Gregg Braden ends the story by saying how it had actually rained that night!

This way of praying is something echoed in the teachings of Neale Donald Walsch, who wrote the ‘Conversations With God’ series of books.

He writes in Book I of the series,

The correct prayer is therefore never a prayer of supplication, but a prayer of gratitude. When you thank God in advance for that which you choose to experience in your reality, you, in effect, acknowledge that it is there…

Both Gregg Braden and Neale Donald Walsch are two wonderful human beings and two great teachers. So I recommend you study their work and also try this method of prayer.

As I said at the outset, there are countless processes and techniques for creating the reality you desire and it’s beyond the scope of this post to provide an exhaustive list.

But I hope you find the above helpful, as a starting place, and that you’ll be led to your ideal process in time.

Resources

The bulk of the material in this post is based on the teachings of Abraham and Hicks.

Other ideas are taken from the teachings of all the teachers featured in the book and movie, The Secret, and from Louise Hay, Gregg Braden, Neale Donald Walsch and Wallace D. Wattles.

You can learn more about them by following the links below: