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Spirituality

‘Spirituality’ denotes everything in creation that is non-physical and ethereal in nature.

It encapsulates the ideas, concepts and practices relating to the non-physical. It also includes the spiritual aspect of all beings.

  • How We Grow

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    How We Grow

    If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?
    ––Rumi

    Growing is a part of being alive.

    If we’re not growing, we’re dying.

    Usually, much of growing happens automatically, without any effort on our part.

    But sometimes, growth demands that we put in effort.

    And that’s when we truly grow.

    This sort of growth affects us physically, mentally and spiritually. It changes us at a deep level.

    It is often uncomfortable–painful, even.

    But the level of growth we can achieve, usually matches the level of pain we experience.

    The ego doesn’t want change. And the ego doesn’t want pain.

    So, we have to put in lots of effort in order to overcome the resistance that the ego is experiencing in the situation.

    Yes, we need the ‘hard’ qualities like determination and grittiness to handle these situations.

    But because we have to overcome the ego (which only understands control and domination), we also need the ‘soft’ qualities like patience, humility and surrender to get the job done.

    And that’s how we grow.

    We grow when we keep trying, even though everything inside us wants us to give up.

    We grow when we choose to stay, when we want so much to run away.

    And we grow when we learn to handle the pain of the situation and stay with it, trusting that it will end at some point, and that something good will come out of it.

    As the saying goes, it’s the pressure that creates the diamond.

    What makes all of this possible (and is interestingly, also the thing that helps us to grow the most) is when we learn to see the uncomfortable situation as an opportunity for our growth and evolution––to see it as something ‘good’ and not as something ‘bad’.

    This is mental and spiritual alchemy.

    We’re taking something difficult and painful, and through our effort, we’re transforming it into something good, and birthing the new and better version of ourselves that we’re meant to become.

    As lofty an idea as this might be, I can’t in all sincerity say that I wish this for myself or another.

    But life can and does still send these opportunities our way from time to time.

    So what I can, and do wish, is that whenever this happens, we can recognise the opportunity and rise to the occasion; that we can go through the difficult times with grace and humility and come out the other side as victors.

    And remember, as the spiritual teacher Bashar says, some situations and life lessons are pre-determined by our Higher Self.

    And we may have to endure passing through a dark tunnel from time to time, as a result.

    But even then, we still get to choose whether we crawl our way through, or skip and dance instead.

    So, happy dancing!

  • Embracing Suffering

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    Embracing Suffering

    ‘Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them–that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.‘
    ––Lao Tzu

    It feels strange to be writing about embracing suffering when my main aim in writing this blog is to help to reduce unnecessary suffering.

    But, as everyone knows, there are times in life when we experience unwanted situations that lead us to suffer–be it physically, mentally, or both.

    I have recently come to realise that even in these situations, much of the suffering I face is optional and self-inflicted.

    This is mainly because of my resistance to the situation and my tendency to indulge in feelings of victimhood.

    There are times when resistance is the correct way forward, but that’s a different kind of resistance–like resisting tyranny.

    The sort of resistance I’m referring to here (resisting an inevitable situation) doesn’t solve problems. It actually creates more problems and suffering.

    And so, recently, I tried a new approach. It’s not new in the sense that it’s original–just that it was something I hadn’t tried many times before.

    Embracing Suffering

    Recently, when an unwanted situation arose, I initially went into my default mode of resistance and victimhood.

    But this reaction made me feel horrible. And I felt stuck because the situation wasn’t going to change for the foreseeable future.

    And so I realised that I had to do something to help myself.

    I wanted to explore new ways of seeing the situation and approaching it.

    So, here’s what I did:

    • I made a decision to fully accept the situation for the time being, without resisting it. This freed up a lot of energy and mental space for more helpful actions.
    • I went outside and sat in the garden with my eyes closed, took a deep breath and asked for guidance–from Source/God, my higher-self, anyone. As I sat there, enjoying the sunshine on my eyelids, a thought popped into my head. It said, ‘I trust in God.’ I felt better immediately.
    • I then had the realisation that this situation was part of a greater plan that I didn’t fully know or understand and that this was still ok.
    • I reflected on how Source/God had carried me safely through so many unwanted situations and challenges previously, and I felt the knowing that I would be ok this time around too.
    • I had the realisation that this situation, though challenging, brought many new opportunities with it too–things that could be good for me and my family.

    All of this helped me to calm down and think clearly again.

    And then, I made a conscious decision to shift from fear and victimhood to courage and being willing to work hard to achieve a positive outcome.

    I told myself that I was going to rise up to the situation and do my best to plan, prepare and navigate it in a positive way, so I could secure a good outcome, and make use of the all the opportunities the situation contained.

    Since much of my suffering was due to a fear of the unknown, I did my best to learn and research, so I could reduce the extent of the unknown and reassure myself.

    As I write this post, the situation is very much still a work in progress.

    But I’m happy to report that things have already shifted towards the positive in a big way.

    I’m beginning to feel confident in myself and my ability to handle this situation well.

    I just need to stay on track and keep going.

    Concluding Thoughts

    The next time I face a challenge, or an unwanted situation, I’d like to do better than before and have a better experience.

    I would like to simply accept what is happening and do my best to face the situation in a constructive way.

    I now realise that the first step in doing this is to embrace the situation as it is–to embrace suffering–and work to transmute this into something good.

    And then, there will be no more ‘unwanted situations’– just life unfolding, and me flowing with it.

    I would like to leave you with these words from Herman Hesse, a German novelist and poet:

    ‘Love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is only your aversion to it that hurts, nothing else.’

    I wish you peace, courage and success in navigating your own challenges.

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  • Does It Spark Joy?–A Simple Tool for Elevating Consciousness

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    Does It Spark Joy?–A Simple Tool for Elevating Consciousness

    ‘Discard everything that does not spark joy.‘
    –Marie Kondo

    Marie Kondo is celebrated for her work in helping people to tidy their homes through her KonMari Method.

    On of the main tenets of her teachings is getting rid of clutter.

    Her test for deciding if you should continue to keep something is simple: ask yourself whether it ‘sparks joy’ when you pick it up.

    If it’s a ‘yes’, you get to keep it. But if it’s a ‘no’, it’s time for you to let it go and allow it to find a new home.

    This technique can be equally useful when it comes to elevating our state of consciousness.

    Elevating Consciousness

    A man’s state of consciousness determines the content and quality of his life.

    And so, if we want to elevate our lives (and our world), we must first elevate our state of consciousness.

    To elevate our state of consciousness, it helps to feed ourselves a mental diet of things that are positive, uplifting and inspiring.

    At the same time, it helps to let go of the things that do the opposite: the things that make us feel scared, angry, disempowered and unworthy.

    Attention Is Energy

    “Energy is the currency of the universe. When you ‘pay’ attention to something, you buy that experience.”
    –Emily Maroutian

    Attention is energy and energy is the ‘currency of the universe’.

    So in giving our attention to something, we feed it and make it more powerful.

    We also begin to resonate with it, which means we begin to attract it into our lived experience.

    This means that if I focus on the things that spark joy in my being, then I become joyful. When I am joyful, I attract the people, places and experiences that will continue to keep me joyful.

    Sadly, the opposite is also true.

    Does It Spark Joy?

    So, the next time you have to decide whether to keep something or someone in your life, or whether you want to continue watching, listening to, or reading something, it might be a good idea to ask your self: ‘Does it spark joy?’

    If you want an instant hit of joy, just watch this adorable band of tiny yet super talented kids play ‘Smooth Operator’ by Sade. I promise you, you’re in for a treat!

    And if you want to know more about them, visit https://thegraystones.com/

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  • ‘What Is the Field?’– An Interview

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    ‘What Is the Field?’– An Interview

    ‘What Is the Field?’ is the title of an interview I was privileged to give with my friend Catherine Carrigan for the Natural Healing Show on UK Health Radio.

    Catherine is a medical intuitive healer, an Amazon best-selling author and the host of the Natural Healing Show.

    In this interview, we discuss many subjects related to the nature of reality, including:

    • The Field, or the Divine Consciousness that connects us all;
    • Concepts from quantum physics, including quantum entanglement and non-locality;
    • The ability that all humans have for reading information from The Field (telepathy, intuition, and other forms of Extra Sensory Perception etc.);
    • The power that lies within all humans to affect physical reality with their intentions/consciousness.

    Enjoy!

    What Is the Field? An Interview with Catherine Carrigan for UK Health Radio

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  • How to Tap Into the Power of Love

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    How to Tap Into the Power of Love

    Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
    ––Rumi

    So, you’ve read my previous post, understood the phenomenal power of love and want to know how you can tap into this superpower.

    The truth is, you always knew, But I’m more than happy to provide a reminder.

    The key to tapping into the power of love is to live from the heart.

    Love is Our Default State

    Just like happiness, love is our default state and is always there, ready to bubble up inside us.

    We just have to remove (or reduce) the things that take us away from love.

    And there is just one culprit that is responsible for all the unloving thoughts, feelings and states we feel: it’s our ego mind.

    The Ego: The Troublemaker

    As I mentioned in another post (Ego Vs Soul), the ego is mostly fear-based. And the ego also loves attention.

    It wants to feel important. And so, if allowed, it will completely hijack and dominate our life experience.

    The ego is the culprit that is responsible for the endless stream of fear-based chatter that many of us mistake for ourselves.

    All the judgment, criticism, comparisons and self-loathing come from this one source.

    So there is no way we should be letting this troublemaker run our lives!

    But many of us do, (myself included).

    Living From the Heart and Soul

    Living from the heart and soul is the key to tapping into the power of love.

    This requires two things:

    1. Being aware of the ego’s chattering and learning to minimise it; and
    2. Cultivating a stronger connection with the heart and the soul.

    The soul is who we really are. It is wise beyond anything the ego could ever dream of, and it speaks to us through our hearts, in the language of love and intuition.

    How to Minimise the Ego

    Do the things that cultivate a stronger connection with the heart and the soul. See below.

    How to Cultivate a Stronger Connection with the Heart and the Soul

    This is the ‘meat and potatoes’ of this post. It’s also the fun part!

    Here’s a non-exhaustive list of things, in no particular order:

    • Meditate
    • Practice self-love
    • Practice gratitude
    • Practice appreciation
    • Practice forgiveness
    • Do something creative
    • Exercise
    • Listen to uplifting music
    • Sing
    • Dance
    • Play
    • Spend time with children and go into their world
    • Play an instrument
    • Make art
    • Make love
    • Hug someone
    • Spend time in nature
    • Spend time with your family and friends
    • Spend time with your pet
    • Spend time daydreaming

    I’ll be writing posts about many of the above, so if you wanted any detailed instructions, just hang tight.

    Love = Happiness?

    You probably noticed that the above things are also the very things that promote happiness and wellbeing.

    And that’s no coincidence!

    That’s just how our universe works.

    And so, we do well when we align ourselves with the way things work and go with the flow, rather than struggling upstream against it.

    Over the years, I have slipped up and done less and less of these things. And my life experience changed to reflect this.

    I won’t go into detail but let’s just say that it sucked to be me between 2019 and 2025!

    But I’ve learned my lesson, and I’m back with a vengeance, to live, practice and write about the things I now know are hugely important.

    But moving on… I have a surprise for you.

    I saved the very best for last!

    The Very Best Way to Tap into the Power of Love

    And drumroll, please…

    The very best way to tap into the power of love is to give love.

    Giving love is the best way to feel more of it and bring it more into our lives.

    We need to love. And we need to give love.

    As humans, we come programmed to love and care.

    Leon–A Love Story About a Hitman and His Plant

    Ever watch the movie, Leon? It’s a story about a hit man.

    Leon is a solitary character–no real friends or family. Just the guy that acts as the go-between and handles the business side of things for him.

    But even Leon had to love something.

    And so he fawned and fussed over a plant.

    Even on his busy hitman schedule, Leon took a great deal of time and care to clean its leaves. And he always made sure the plant got enough water and sunlight.

    My apologies to young Mr. C. Darwin, but I strongly believe that this capacity for love, and our need for love, is actually what allows us to be successful as a species.

    How to Give Love

    Care. Care. Care!

    Care about your dreams and desires. Care about your happiness and wellbeing. Care about your hobbies and passions. Care about wanting to serve others. Care about making things better in some way.

    And give.

    Give. Give. Give!

    Give thanks. Give kindness. Give help and support. Give care. Give forgiveness. Give patience. Give attention. Give thought to the things that really matter in life.

    Give, but not from a place of sacrifice or resentment.

    As spiritual teacher Abraham says,

    ‘You can’t serve from an empty vessel.’

    So self-care comes first. And you must give to yourself before you can give of yourself (that’s an original by the way).

    But giving works!

    Lynne Mc Taggart, author of the Intention Experiment and many other great books, ran intention groups.

    She called these the ‘Power of Eight‘ groups, as there were eight participants in each group.

    The aim of these groups was to send healing intention to people who were unwell.

    But what shocked Lynne and her participants was that, even though they were focussed on giving, they all ended up getting some sort of unexpected benefit back in return.

    A lady with chronic pain had her pain disappear.

    Another lady, who had retinal damage, had her vision restored to 20/20!

    Lynne calls it the ‘mirror effect’ because what we give out is being reflected back into our life.

    And that, my friends, is the power of giving!

    I will close this post with a quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer:

    The more we demand from the universe, the more is demanded of us. The more we give away, the more is given to us.

    Dr. Dyer clarified by pointing out that the Universe listens to what we say and the Law of Attraction responds in kind.

    So when we say ‘Gimme, gimme, gimme’, the Universe also says, ‘Gimme, gimme, gimme,’ back to us.

    But when we say ‘How may I serve?’ the Universe says ‘How may I serve?’ to us instead!

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